If 2 people are happy together, let them be..regardless of the color of their skin!!

My husband and I are a mixed couple. We have been together since 1994 and I can tell you from first hand experience, I’ve lost jobs because I am married to an African American. My husband has had notes left on the windshield of his cars on the parking lot where he used to work. Never in a million years did I think that St. Louis could be so racially polarized. when I was in high school, I fell in love with downtown St. Louis — all the hustling and bustling of the city streets. Had I known back then, what I know now, things probably would have been different. Thankfully the neighbors have accepted us as a couple.

Can you file this under “Complete Waste of Time?” Just think, these five students are paying mucho denero to WashU and this is the best they can come up with?

Why is it that in this country no one had a problem with Hugh Hefner dating girls 50 years younger than him but some got all up in arms over the photo?? Some people need to get a life! If people are in love who cares about what they are or where they came from! Does anyone remember the 1980’s move, “Earth Girls are Easy” because underneath it all we are all the same.

Why is it that if the couple is half white and half black, people freak out about them, but if the couple is half white and half Oriental, nobody cares?

the concept was good, but the questions were surprisingly poorly done. too bad.

I’m all for interracial couples, but against affirmative action. It’s fine for love, bad for business.

Didn’t we do this one already?

Those questions came from Wash. U. graduate students? You’re joking.

Relationships between people of different skin colors (I won’t use the term interracial because it is bogus. There is only one race, Homo Sapiens) is so common those days, I don’t give it a second thought anymore. Not so, 15 or 20 years ago, when it seemed a little awkward. The pity is that people (regardless of their skin color or ethnicity) get into relationships for the wrong reason, and after they’re in over their heads, they realize they have absolutely nothing in common with the person they’ve chosen to be sexually intimate with.

Who gives a crap? Printing this article is completely asinine. Anyone who has a problem with inter-racial couples is obviouly going to be to ignorant to have a intelligent debate. So whats the point? If you dont like it, move to south county and buy a rebel flag just like the rest of the rednecks in this town.

Very interesting, but i think the questions are limited. My response to any couple tends to be a result of how i perceive whether or not they appear happy or productive or negatively-parenting their kids or whatever behaviour is on display - i don’t notice the colouration or gender so much. I don’t know How typical my own perception is, but i do know Saint Louis has serious race issues, & awareness can help bridge many gaps. I think this survey is an opportunity to open up conversation, rather than just wind up angry reactions. Choice is power, & each individual has to make his or her own life through choices made, & that includes how we treat one another in our neighbourhoods, our communities, our daily lives. We can make the lives & the world in which we wish to live by how we connect with those around us.

What I want to see a blog on where the writers at the post live. cause anyone living around people of color move very quickly when they have children. I really don’t care who marries who at least they are married.
what a waste of time bring this subject up again.

Ok..i’m kinda upset about the questions too…specifically when did religion become a race; what a joke. I hate when these things don’t go deeper..however why do people ask questions they already know the answer…isn’t it obvious about why black and white stirs more than ‘Asian’and whites. The fact remains is that for over 500 years, white and black has defined nationality. When people get away from that, they can start seeing the similarities and lessons each other’s cultures can teach one another…Its all about spreading the understanding of multiple identities. I loved being mixed!

Here is my opinion, white women who are with black guys tend to have issues, usually starting with low self esteem. They tend to start dressing, acting, talking black and using mannerisms that most people associate with being black. Black women who are with white guys tend to have higher self esteem. They tend to dress, act, and carry themselves more conservatively and professionally. You don’t have to like it, but that is my bare bone opinion. Of course, there are exceptions to everything I have typed, but more often than not, it’s true.

This is the best survey ever! I laughed so hard at the questions that my heart stopped for about thirty seconds. I laugh even more a the complete ignorance of people that cant handle interracial couples. But can you blame these people? It’s not the fact that it’s an interracial couple kissing, it’s the fact that it’s not a brother and sister kissing each other in a trailer park that offends them.

These questions lack a few important ones; like - How do you feel when you see a black male with a female Asian? How do you feel when you see a female Asian with a black male? Same questions can go on and on for Mid Eastern and black and white matches. The survey definitely is looking for demographics to pinpoint geographical prejudices. I don’t live in St. Louis or nearby. What is the culture there that makes blacks so angry? I do understand the social levels (caste system) of America. I have been fortunate to travel to many foreign countries - I observed the very same prejudices there; although, they are more social and economical there. The questions on religion are like a red herring - not germaine to the race issue. That is much more like what I witnessed in foreign countries - the out and out hatred each religion had for the other, especially the Muslims and Jews. St. Louis interracial stuff is small potatoes compared to those.
Why do blacks hate the whites so much in St. Louis? Why do they shout racial slurs immediately if something doesn’t go their way? I remember many blacks in my military unit bragging about trophy white girls and how stupid they were; how easy it was to have sex with them by telling them how prejudice they were. I don’t mind honest, true, relationships, but even mixed races seem to divorce and put the kids onto the public dole; or just live on it anyway, but that is another subject. Where is Rodney when you need him in St. Louis… not L.A.? Why are St. Louis and K.C. so depend on the government dole? All races there seem to marry that quite quickly… you teach that in schools? at churches? at the synogog? at the stadiums? at home? Personally, I am prejudice against anyone of any color that practices such violence in inner city St. Louis; why would any other race want to marry into that?

I am happy to have been raised by a family who believes that there are good and bad in every race. They are happy with whatever race I choose to be with. They are more concerned that the person treats me with respect and cares for me than what race they are. I’ve dated knucklehead black and white men as well as quality black and white men. Meeting a good person period is a blessing no matter what race they are.
Unfortunately St Louis is a city that is stuck in the past on many different levels. Many people here act one way in the public eye but when they are at home, the bar, the VFW hall, the family gatherings is when their true colors come out.

this is relevant to this article:

http://tiny.cc/0oHkl

Goviskillingme,

Not always true. I know of a Black family who moved into this Ladue neighborhood, majority Jewish families but some White non-Jewish families also.

One neighbor was very upset that this Black doctor had moved in with his family and went around to all the neighbors wanting to go in together to purchase the home from the Black doctor.

Do you wonder how I know this? See, not everyone is racist, ignorant and fearful. I had a very good friend in this particular subdivision.

By the way, I can tell you that none of these families moved because a Black family had moved in and this was over 20 years ago nor did the fearful man. There are other well to do Black families in that neighborhood now. The neighborhood didn’t go, it held its real estate values and is still a very desirable neighborhood and subdivision. (lol).

How sad that people such as you still don’t quite understand what it is that causes neighborhoods to go down hill.

By the way, there are many White neighborhoods as a Black person that I hope I am never cursed by God to ever have to live in. But, if it shall ever be His then His will be and I will accept my lot. But, the issues that you are speaking about, you ignore that you White people have these same issues (being undesirable to have as neighbors) and to pretend that you don’t as if it is some great thing living next to anyone who is White because they are White, you have got to be kidding. Sadly, I don’t think that you are. This is an individual family thing and not race thing and to make it race is ignorant.

If a couple is happy, I am happy for them. You have to see people as individuals. I have personal experience with this issue, as my son (who is white) dates a black girl. She is sweet, pretty, a good student, and she fits right in with our family. We do occasionally get looks when we all go out to eat, but my son seems to have good taste in girlfriends, and he could not have chosen a better girl. We live in a very diverse neighborhood (not just black and white, but people of several other nationalities), and the kids here for the most part have all grown up together and gone through school together.

Summer re-run of April’s show.

Walker

I’m sure the next diatribe will be some religious position of yours right.

White people move from homes in areas that blacks move into because they know from pass what will happen. I’ve said this before,” when Blacks start controlling the governmental agency (municipality) and the school systems the blight follows and crime escalates”. This is a fact, and across the country its undeniable. we can’t live together in harmony, the difference can’t be ignored, we try, but in the end most Black people have a different outlook on life then majority of whites, and no matter how our education system want to jam it down the throat of children with black history month, or changing the history books. Once a child grows and becomes an adult and starts living in this society and intermingling with blacks, the lesson comes full circle and the beat goes on.

Numbed:

The reason for this post is the survey done by the Washington University students; they are hoping to gather data for their work.. It’s not actually a summer rerun.

Joe L, Homosapiens are a secies, not a race. Call them breeds if you want like we do with dogs, but the fact remains that different groups of homosapiens have different traits. Race, or breed, is very real in nature. And there is no reason to be afraid of that fact…

As long as the two are consenting adults…I think it’s fine.

i feel like if they’re happy together then let them be but me personally i cudnt see my self with a white man it just wudnt feel rightt to me..lol

momoftwo - why do they need to be adults? freshman in high school can’t date each other if they are different skin colors?

I’m 23 and in a dedicated inter-color (i wont say race because i too believe that the only race is human) relationship. I get along better with black men, and they tend to appreciate my curves moreso than the average white guy who wants bones and flesh.

Princess - Thanks for agreeing with me about there being only one race. But the rest of your comment is disappointing (and goes back to exactly what I said about people getting into relationships for the wrong reasons.) Wouldn’t you prefer that men (black, white, red or yellow) appreciate your mind, your spirituality, your plan for life instead of your curves? AND I AM JUST WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO COMMENT “WHO ARE YOU TO SAY WHAT IS THE RIGHT OR WRONG REASON FOR GETTING INTO A RELATIONSHIP”! Ask yourself if you would like your daughter or son to be in a relationship that went no deeper than basic sexual attraction, and you’ll have answered your own question.

Goviskillingme,

As I stated earlier:

How sad that people such as you still don’t quite understand what it is that causes neighborhoods to go down hill. But, then you don’t seem to understand much concerning human nature or people and certainly not the cause and affect of much.

Rayb,

You certainly see the Black and White racial issue in St. Louis through a warped one-sided view. Blacks are just so prejudice against Whites through those lens of yours? Could it possibly be that much of the behavior that you are witnessing by a few Black people towards Whites are mainly responses to how they are perceiving that they are being treated by you or the Whites that you witness receiving such treatment?

Now, I have seen awful attitudes by Blacks against Whites in public situations and the reverse where I have witnessed Whites treat Blacks poorly. What can I say other than the world just ain’t all that pretty. People out there have all sorts of issues that has nothing to do with us personally but are their own little demons that they must learn to cast away.

It is truly sad when I see anyone Black or White who are so inflicted with such ugly racial prejudices or any type of corrupted behaviors and sick heart. There are truly taunted people out there who do not mind taunting others and love doing evil to others, it is what some people thrive on and these serious inflictions are color blind. Racial prejudices are just one of many sick evil inflictions that taunts people in our world.

curves…euphemism for hefty momma…..

First of all the survey and the motivation behind the survey is ridiculous. Why would they waste their time with such nonsense?

Like all other bogus movements that consume our lives while the country is going down the drain this is just a diversion. It will become politicized and polarized and anyone who takes the ‘wrong’ view of this will be publicly scorned.

I’ve heard of a few cases where a white girl won’t date a black and she is called a racist. This is a form of warfare.

What two people do on their own is their business but this is another social engineering experiment that will cause much more contempt and division between the races.

I gotta tell ya, this survey by those fancy-pants college kids misses the most important aspect of how people react to couples: whether the two people are good-looking or not.

If the two people in question are gorgeous, like Tiger Woods and his Swedish supermodel wife, no problem. If they’re Charles DeGaulle/Betty Friedan, I’m gonna get nauseous, because no matter what color they are, I’m gonna be ralphin’ up my lunch!

The only thing that should matter between two people getting married is that they truly love each other.

The only thing I can say about this is: if GOD wanted people of one color only, he would NOT have made blacks, whites, asian, etc. BUT, he didn’t, so mixing the “colors” wasn’t in his plan - now, with all the ‘mixed’ kids being born in and out of wedlock, just where do they belong? There isn’t any definite place for them to belong - the whites don’t claim them, and neither do MOST blacks because you see, NOW, their skin is too light! I feel sorry for the kids - but these mixed families don’t give a toot about what their kids go through! They can’t pass for white (most of them), and they absolutely show they have mixed blood, but because of that, they have to live as blacks since that side is dominent! Again,I feel sorry for what these people do to these children - they don’t belong anyplace!

i think that once everyone gets away from defining people by their ethnic group, then america will be better as a whole…who cares what ethnicity someone is? if you love someone and are willing to accept everything that goes along with loving that person, then all of the other crap doesn’t really matter….at least, that’s my opinion.

And how in hell is it anyone elses business. Butt out and mind your own business.

who cares about the color of someones skin. thats the problem with STL, too many labels! If 2 people are happy, its not for anyone to say that its wrong

Why bother asking for input if you are going to censor half of the people?
What the hell is the country turning into?