The importance of dad
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Cathy Young, RealClearPolitics, wrote in May of America’s shift toward single motherhood:
…..In 2007, nearly 40 percent of all babies born in the United States were born to single women, up from 34 percent in 2002. Some sociologists believe we have reached a tipping point: the link between marriage and parenthood is no longer the norm. Why is this happening, and what does it mean for women, children, and men?
Tom McFeely, who wrote Children Pay the Price for National Catholic Register online, quoted Helen Alvare:
For Catholics, the possible “normalizing” of out of wedlock childbearing is of particular concern, not only because of the diminished well-being of vulnerable children, but also because it calls into question the very necessity, the very centrality of the male-female relationship, for the lives of individuals and society. If, as we believe, the relationship between Christ and the Church is glimpsed in a special way in marriage, and if human beings come to understand God’s love in a privileged way as spouses, what does it portend if marriage is no longer understood to be the keystone of a good society?
Furthermore, all of this is happening in the teeth of increasingly well-known empirical findings about the disadvantages suffered by children reared outside of married, two-biological-parent households. It is literally “unreasonable.” It trudges on as if facts don’t matter. Adult sexual choices have everything to do with the well-being of the children they make; yet bad choices go uncensored by society.
Andrew Peach, FIRST THINGS, in The Demise of Fatherhood recently added:
Anyone unfortunate enough to pick up a newspaper is painfully aware that one-third of American children live without any father and that, in many inner cities, the out-of-wedlock birth rate exceeds seventy percent.
Also well known, though rarely acknowledged, is the devastation that such a lack of paternity has wreaked on children and society more generally…..
All dismal news, made all the more poignant by a recent MSNBC.com finding highlighted by Tom McFeely yesterday in his Dads Matter —- A Lot post:
When it comes to preventing risky teen sex, there may be no better deterrent than a doting dad.
Teenagers whose fathers are more involved in their lives are less likely to engage in risky sexual activities such as unprotected intercourse, according to a new study.
The more attentive the dad - and the more he knows about his teenage child’s friends - the bigger the impact on the teen’s sexual behavior, the researchers found.
While an involved mother can also help stave off a teen’s sexual activity, dads have twice the influence…..
Dads have twice the influence.
Good news for all you good dads out there. More evidence of what we’ve known all along: you stick it out, you stay involved, you love your children. You are vital, you are needed. We wish we could multiply you many times over.
Sherry Tyree, 66, a graduate of John Burroughs School and Washington University, is a founding member (1984) and Vice President of Women for Faith & Family, a national Catholic women's organization that supports and defends traditional church teachings. Sherry is married to Dr. Donald A. Tyree, professor emeritus, School of Business, St. Louis University. 
There are many children who do not have fathers in their lives and who are better off not having their biological dads in their lives. For these children, they must understand that that they can still be okay without their fathers in their lives. Of course it would be ideal and would be best if all children had fathers in their lives who were the men and fathers that God intended them to be but, that just isn’t the case and truly never has been the case in any society since biblical times. Both King David and Jacob are perfect examples of fathers in the home but were failures as fathers and where many of their children went astray never returning to God’s ways.
They are also why children need to have inscribed into their hearts Ezekiel 18-20. Not having worthy or good parents is not a good enough reason for children to be doomed and it will not be one accepted by God.
It is also destructive of well intending adults and Christians to continuously dwell on the lie that children will be doomed without fathers in their lives because they will only be doomed only if they believe such a lie as this that society is brain washing them to believe.
God’s word states that:
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Ezekiel 18-20
14 “Now suppose this man fathers a son who sees all the sins that his father has done; he sees, and does not do likewise: 15 he does not eat upon the mountains or lift up his eyes to the idols of the house of Israel, does not defile his neighbor’s wife,
16 does not oppress anyone, exacts no pledge, commits no robbery, but gives his bread to the hungry and covers the naked with a garment,
17 withholds his hand from iniquity, [3] takes no interest or profit, obeys my rules, and walks in my statutes; he shall not die for his father’s iniquity; he shall surely live.
18 As for his father, because he practiced extortion, robbed his brother, and did what is not good among his people, behold, he shall die for his iniquity.
19 “Yet you say, ‘Why should not the son suffer for the iniquity of the father?’ When the son has done what is just and right, and has been careful to observe all my statutes, he shall surely live.
20 The soul who sins shall die. The son shall not suffer for the iniquity of the father, nor the father suffer for the iniquity of the son. The righteousness of the righteous shall be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked shall be upon himself.
21 “But if a wicked person turns away from all his sins that he has committed and keeps all my statutes and does what is just and right, he shall surely live; he shall not die.
22 None of the transgressions that he has committed shall be remembered against him; for the righteousness that he has done he shall live.
23 Have I any pleasure in the death of the wicked, declares the Lord God, and not rather that he should turn from his way and live?
24 But when a righteous person turns away from his righteousness and does injustice and does the same abominations that the wicked person does, shall he live? None of the righteous deeds that he has done shall be remembered; for the treachery of which he is guilty and the sin he has committed, for them he shall die.
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Single mothers must understand that they can depend on God’s Word to raise their children up in and know that they can depend on God’s Word and not the word of man if they themselves turn away from sin and Walk in all God’s ways. When there is no man around, you need not look for one nor do you need to depend on anything other than stand on God’s Word for the right guidance.
The issue here should be more about why aren’t men the men God intended them to be? Why do society continue to give men a free pass and place all the burden on women, same as during biblical times as shown through the story of, “The Adulteress Woman”. Neither men nor society have learned anything from that story in all this time.
Even our religious men out there are not the men God intended them to be.
It is more of a travesty that a single mother can’t even entrust a man in a church claiming to be a God fearing Christian to mentor their fatherless child (ren) for justified fear that they will harm them by sexually abusing them. A mother would be negligent to entrust her child to any man even in the church and I think that is the worst travesty of all even worst than children being fatherless.
I am a single mother raising a son without a father in his life and to date, there have been no a man, Christian, Catholic or other that I would entrust my son to be in the company of alone outside an uncle who recently passed away. Sadly, due to my shortcomings, failures and mistakes at a time during which I walked away from God, I met a man who I got wrapped up into who was someone that I should have ran from but did not.
The travesty here was my ever walking away from God during that period of my life after coming to Him and accepting Him into my life. I did not learn until a few years after my son’s birth that his father had been adopted from a Catholic home as a young boy and had been severely sexually abused by many Catholic priests. As wicked as my son’s father has behaved by many of the things that soon followed after learning these things about him, I truly understand the demons that he is dealing with that truly came to the surface after the birth of my son. This is man man who is a respected business man but who has many dark dark evil twisted secrets.
The world has much evil in it and we have been given a way to overcome it all and must know and believe that. It does no one any good and especially not the children for grown ups to sit back and tell them that their lives are doomed without fathers where in most of these cases it is a blessing that their fathers are not part of their lives. More truly righteous people are needed in guiding single mothers who are taking on the responsibility of raising children along.