Remember those heady high school days when you didn’t want to be the one left out of the V-Day candygram deliveries. I often contemplated sending one to myself just to keep up appearances.

Well, a couple of adult-focused websites are allowing you to do that for your adult guy. The idea is that men generally have sex on the brain, so here’s a little surprise to get them thinking about sex with you.

A black envelope arrrives with a lacy blood-red heart-shaped thong inside.

OK, so now that you have his attention, there’s a personal message from you on a note card and a link to a website (in this case, www.sendapantygram.com) for another racy message to keep his mind off work. Personally, I think the addition of the website message is overkill and probably just a marketing ploy from the folks at the company to drive more traffic to their website, but whatever.

The site claims to have sent panties all over the world to husbands stationed in Iraq, traveling on business to Canada, Bermuda, France, Greece, Germany, Japan, Puerto Rico, Romania, London … you get the idea.

The appeal is that the gift is sexy and naughty. But oddly, enough there’s a note on the site that the panties are symbolic and not intended to be worn. Strikes me as a little odd. Are they made out of some weird material like those fruit bowls you can only put fake fruit because there are warnings that it’s not suitable for edible produce?

Or maybe it’s because it might not be as sexy for women of a certain size to send off a pair of panties that would fit them. Whatever the reason, you’ll have to pay $24.95 for the symbol, which seems a little high. But it’s still much cheaper than any other symbol of love (or lust) that you might send a guy: candies, flowers and jewelry come to mind.

But if you’d like to spend your cash on something you can wear, you might want to saunter over to mypantygram.com, where you can find lingerie sets or panties or even a racy little zebra-print G-string with a satin tie connected to a collar that fits around the neck (I said “racy,” didn’t I). Prices start around $24 but migrate upwards to $48.95 for items like the black and white camoflage bikini and bra set, pictured at right.

Items are delivered in a black envelope with a gold or silver tag inscribed with your private message. Premium gifts are sealed in a heart-shaped envelope tied with a red satin ribbon.

OR, there’s also the option of using a teddy bear at myteddybare.com to deliver your message. The teddy bear is winking and dressed in underwear. There’s a seam in the back for you to stuff it with lingerie, bath and spa products or “kama sutra” products (yep, it’s probably exactly what you’re thinking of). The site gives you the option of stuffing it with any number of products from the site, including lingerie items for men, women or couples. Apparel drifts from mildly sexual to downright raunchy, if you like that type of thing.