As to the issue of the skipped flowers. That’s your fault. Guys don’t like that “no means yes” business. It’s confusing and aggrivating. Let your yes be yes, etc. If you want it, don’t be coy.

My wife and I have been married two and a half years. For our second anniversary we went back to the place we had our honeymoon, at a b&b locally. This year my wife’s just interested in going to a nice restaurant. Thankfully my wife isn’t into jewelry (of course I wouldn’t have married her otherwise, because I’m not into buying expensive jewelry, especially diamonds). Our only jewelry is our wedding bands.

As far as most guys are concerned, at least this guy, I could care less about gifts, cards, etc. Tell me happy anniversary, and maybe go out to dinner at a moderately priced place. I’m cheap, don’t want or need gifts and don’t look forward to buying trinkets. My wife is thankfully not into trinkets and dust collectors. Give me my special homemade birthday cake on my birthday and a homemade gingerbread on Christmas and that’s good enough for me as presents go.

My wife has told me that how I treat her daily is worth so much more than what I do or don’t do on Valentines day or for our anniversary. I am her emotional rock.

So don’t play word games with your husbands ladies. Your guy can still be romantic… in fact, if they aren’t already, train them how to be romantic year round and don’t fuss so much over specific dates.

correction…”couldn’t care less”…. grrrr….

Logus - Man lighten up. The commentary was obviously made with self-depricating humor with regards to her husband skipping the flowers. It seems you’re way too literal as well as admittedly cheap.

Moving along….I’ve given diamonds and no matter how unpolitical some may find an American women is still very appreciative of a stone or two. Probably the best gift for me was a weekend spent in a B&B in Napa Valley. California wine, open air french picnic and a summer afternoon will be in my mind for a long time.

I let my husband know many years ago that the only flowers I wanted were the kind that could be planted in my garden.He still gets a romantic card and a single rose for me on occassion, but knows I consider it a waste of money to spend a lot on flowers that will be dead in a week.Probably the most expensive gift he’s ever given me was a champion-bred Great Dane puppy after our previous Dane died and I couldn’t find one through rescue.
I am not into jewelry,not even diamonds,so I guess I’m not a typical female.He bought me a nice ring one year when we were first married, but it didn’t fit,so we just returned it and got what I really wanted- a used saddle for my horse.Some years I just get a card and a rose, but I consider all the little things he does to be more important than expensive gifts.I rarely have to put gas in my car, he helps with laundry,dishes,kids,cooks,yardwork-pretty much everything.All that means so much more than a bunch of dying flowers or jewelry that will rarely be worn. No wonder we just celebrated our seventeenth anniversary.

There ya go Tuck. I’m not alone and neither is my atypical wife.

Cheap I am, but I look at it more as frugal and sensible.

My husband knows that I’m all (almost) about practicality and buys me things I can use. I’d prefer flowers I can plant and keep for a good long time over a rose bouquet. But, a new mouse for my computer, or a mid-range set of jewelry I can wear to the office or out to a casual dinner.