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11.03.2008 12:00 am

Voting: Will you take your child to the polls?

St. Louis Post-Dispatch
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I sparked a mini-outcry on my Facebook page when my status line talked about my kindergartener’s political awareness. Some people seem to believe children should be sheltered from the corruption and nasty side of politics. As regular readers know, I’m clearly on the other side of this debate.

My kindergartner and preschooler have been incredibly interested about the election and talk about it daily. I took my six-year-old with me to the polls when I cast my absentee ballot, even though we had to wait in the cold for an hour. It was a thrill for both of us.

To those who say children should not be involved in politics, I cite this sobering statistic: In 2004 only 56.7 percent of registered voters turned out.

Leadership expert Jamie Woolf says there is no better time than this historic election to stress to your children the importance of being politically engaged so that you can play a part in raising a more politically engaged American electorate. I agree with her.

Woolf, author of Mom-in-Chief: How Wisdom from the Workplace Can Save Your Family from Chaos, says this is a great time to get kids excited about voting and to explain to them that being politically engaged and using their vote to speak their mind is a  way to affect the world around them.

She offers these five tips from the business world that can be used to raise politically engaged children:

Strategy 1: Research the competition and show why politics matters. In business, you can’t believe everything you hear. A leader may hear from someone in his department that an employee isn’t pulling his weight or that he’s causing disruptions. The best leaders never take these rumors at face value. They take the time to assess the strengths and weaknesses of each of their employees and then form their own opinions about their performance levels. The same skills that you use in your job to assess an employee or coworker’s performance level can be used to assess a candidate, and they are skills that are easy for your kids to grasp.

“I think the most difficult thing to convey to your children with regard to the election is that they can’t believe everything they hear on TV or everything they read online,” says Woolf. “With so many negative ads and false rumors floating around, you have to teach them to focus on the issues. Ask your kids which issues they think are the most important. Teach them how to effectively gather information about the candidates by reading newspaper articles together, watching debates as a family, talking about political issues around the dinner table, and visiting the candidates’ websites.

Strategy 2: Guard against “momthink.” We’ve probably all worked with a boss at one point who tried his best to stifle any dissenting arguments against the way he or the company does things. He wants to hear only from “yes men,” and as a result it is very difficult for his company or department to grow or change for the better. The best leaders encourage disagreement so that the full range of issues gets out on the table and so that solutions to problems can be approached in different ways. That said, being a good Mom-in-Chief means not programming your kids to think like you.

 ”You have to be careful that you aren’t forcing your political opinions on your children when you are engaging them in political conversations. Political discussion should be used to teach them how to be independent thinkers rather than simply plugging them into your ‘momthink.’ As a parent, it’s your responsibility to show your children how to respect dissenting points of view by listening, considering ideas different from their own, and deepening their understanding of their own opinions. So, if your kids decide they would also vote for your candidate of choice, ask them to assume the other point of view as a fun way to foster critical thinking and guard against ‘momthink.’”

Strategy 3: Take kids to the voting booth. I have a frustrated client at an engineering and design firm who at one point believed many of his workers didn’t see how their work connected to the finished product. To remedy the problem, he decided to make a habit of getting his employees out of the office to tour the buildings they had helped to build. After his employees saw what resulted from their work, motivation and productivity in his firm soared. A great way to help your kids make the connection that we as individual citizens can have a huge impact on what happens in our country is to take them to the voting booth.

“I think you’ll find that your kids really enjoy the process because it isn’t something they can experience every day,” says Woolf. “My nine-year-old daughter loves to vote. She loves to fill in the arrows or touch the touch screens and proudly walks away with an ‘I Voted’ sticker. Visiting the polls provides you with a great opportunity to talk to your children about the privilege of voting and the important role we play in the democratic process of our country. By showing your enthusiasm about voting to your own kids, you can help reduce the apathy and cynicism about the political process so widespread among youth in the U.S. today.”

Strategy 4: Teach them how to respectfully debate. Too many adults enter the business world without properly knowing how to debate their side of an issue. Too often arguments that begin in a meeting or over a conference call end only with hurt feelings or two departments or employees that are suddenly unwilling to work together. That’s why it is key that you teach your children how to remain respectful when debating an issue. It’s a skill that will benefit them as they go through school and also when they reach the business world. A great way to teach your kids how to debate respectfully is by putting the candidates themselves aside and looking only at the issues. Have one child choose one side of an issue while their sibling or friend takes the opposing side. Give them a few minutes to prepare and then let them participate in a mock debate with you as the moderator. Play the devil’s advocate to each child by bringing up aspects of their position that they may not have considered and call them out if they ever stray from the issues and attack their opponent in any way.

“A friend of mine, upon hearing her kids ‘Boo’ a lawn sign with the candidate they (their parents) weren’t voting for, asked them what they didn’t like about this candidate,” says Woolf. “Their response was silence. She took the opportunity to talk with them about the importance of understanding the views of each candidate and that booing the other candidate wasn’t a sufficient or responsible response to an opposing view. She taught them a lesson that every parent should teach, that you haven’t earned the right to respectfully disagree or debate an issue until you’ve considered both sides.”

Strategy 5: Talk, yes, but take action too. If you’re leading a company or department and there is a crisis brewing, do you sit in your office hoping that it will blow over? No! You get to work on developing and enacting a plan to prevent the crisis or make its impact as little as possible. In the same way, if you believe strongly in a candidate or the political process in general, it’s important that you show your children that they can do more than simply voting to get involved. “I can remember stuffing envelopes with my mom from the time I was very young,” says Woolf. “Four years ago, we had a party at our house filled with people calling registered voters, reminding them to vote. My oldest was able to make calls then and asked if we could make calls again this year. Because presidential elections happen only every four years, you can really create a lot of excitement around them that your kids will be receptive to. A great way to do that is by throwing an election night party and watching the election returns together. Doing this is a great way to not only make them politically engaged but also politically active.”

Parents: Do you talk politics with your child? Do your political views reflect much of what you heard from your parents growing up? Is there value in taking children to the polls?

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Will I take my kids to the polls tomorrow? Yes. And I apologize, in advance, to the few hundred people who will be standing with us in line. If I had any other option, I probably would only take my 4 year old and leave my 2 year old elsewhere…but I don’t think I have that luxury tomorrow.

As far as involving kids in politics…I agree it’s important to teach them basic ideas of politics and government, but I do go way out of my way not to try to instill my personal preferences on them. I’ll go as far as give them the tools for critical thinking, and hope as they grow up they can make up their own mind. I do, however, think there is a fine line with teaching basic ideas vs getting kids involved directly with politics. Living in St. Charles, I’ve seen many demonstrations from Pro Life groups along Mid Rivers Mall Drive, and there has never been a time where I haven’t seen a young child carrying a sign with a picture of a baby fetus. I personally think that is not a place for a child to be, but as parents, we all have our own rules and values.

I did have an interesting conversation with my 4 year old last week as we were watching The View. We were eating lunch and he asked why they were yelling and fighting. I told him that the blonde lady and the red head were arguing over who they wanted to be President. After a few minutes of trying to find the right explanation for everything, I simply broke it down like this to him:

“…think of it this way…if the Decepticons needed to pick a new leader, you would have people for Starscream and people who wanted Galvatron. They would then have to decide who is the most powerful to be the new leader.”

To which my son said, “but dad, I want Soundwave as the new leader of the Decepticons.”

At that moment, my son and I both agreed that we both want a three party system.

— Brian - SAHD
6:51 pm November 3rd, 2008

No outcry from me. When I was in kindergarten, my parents allowed me to miss school to go to the polls with one of our neighbors. It was an invaluable experience for me, and one of the only things I vividly remember about kindergarten.

— Anil
6:55 pm November 3rd, 2008

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— Virginia Harris
11:45 am November 4th, 2008