05.26.2009 12:26 pm
Talking to kids about panhandlers
St. Louis Post-Dispatch
Last summer my son (3) spotted a pandhandler outside of Busch Stadium. He began to question me as only 3-year-olds can. “Why does he need money?” “What is he doing?” “Why can’t he go watch the game” “Can we give him our tickets?” I wasn’t sure what to say then, and I’m not sure now.
How do you deal with the questions that arise when your kids see panhandlers?



Hi Everyone! I’m TC’s Bad Karma!
Whenever I point a finger, I’ve got three pointing back at me!
Just out of curiosity, what was your point? That homelessness is an effect of a unjust system (capitalism)? That homeless people seem crazy because they don’t have fur? Or that everyone in the Midwest is inherently intellectually inferior to those from which ever superior coast you reside on?
TC’s Response: “I got nothing”
I’m not sure, judging from the comments here, how many people have ever had a mentally ill person in their lives. I grew up with a schizophrenic father and now have a brother who is also ill. In the seventies they pushed all of the people out of the hospitals with the advent of the “new” medications. Most of the people you see on the streets are mentally ill and cannot function and have no ability to work and no one to take care of them. Schizophrenia is a brain disease, and we as a society, should take care of them, but our government chooses to look the other way. It is a chronic condition that never goes away and is very difficult for family members to deal with. I taught my children compassion for those individuals and “There but for the grace of God go I.” It doesn’t take much bad luck to land there.
Wow! I hope most of you aren’t teachers because I don’t want you passing this sort of mentality on to my children. I’m amazed at the number of people who seem to think the homeless are “getting what they deserve”. There is no compassion for people anymore. I will tell my children that they are homeless because they don’t have a job or anyone to help take care of them. I will remind them how lucky we are to have great opportunities and luck and I will remind them this is why we donate to charities. And I will tell them that are mean people out there that think homeless people don’t deserve help or second chances and that’s why we vote democratic.
You liberal haters– yes, panhandling didn’t exist til January when Obama was elected. Either you guys are too young or too stupid to remember how the homeless rate soared thanks to that stellar President Reagan. Emptied the mental hospitals and put everyone on the street by changing the laws and health regs. & completely did away with any type of long term care for the mentally ill. When you see a “Bum” schizophrenic muttering to him/herself on the street, remember Reagan– who had enough money that he didn’t have to suffer a lack of health care during HIS mental incapacity.
I teach my children about compassion and helping others. But these people still irk me. You cannot win- esp. when they approach you. If I give them money, I feel bad that I haven’t given them enough, AND angry that I gave at all. I don’t like being taken, & that’s how I feel. But what keeps coming to mind is, “When you help the least of me….” In the end, I think God will judge the thief more harshly than I. At the pearly gates, he won’t ask ME why I allowed myself to be taken, but WILL ask the thief why he lied and stole from me,.. and others.
Oh man. Some of you have never heard the phrase “But for the grace of God, go I”, huh? Teh bad Karma train some of you are riding might soon derail and have you in similar situations.