Survey says: Most women have considered leaving husbands, want more sex
File this under: Reality checks for brides-to-be…
A recent survey conducted by Woman’s Day Magazine and AOL, questioned 35,000 women on the state of their marriages, and produced some revealing results. Here’s a sampling of the figures: · 52% of women say they have no/a dull sex life
· 72% have considered leaving their husbands
· 57% regret marrying their husband
· 79% want sex more often. (Only 19% call their sex life satisfying.)
· 27% think their marriages are not successful
· 52% say their husband is not their soul mate
· 41% said they don’t have date night
Hmm…paints a grim picture of marriage. But most people in committed. long-term relationships have their ups and downs. What I find most interesting is that only 27 percent said their marriages are not successful. So, despite the lack of sex, date night, and soul-matedness, most women think their marriages are basically okay. What gives?
Aisha covered education and breaking news for nearly ten years before joining the Lifestyle staff where she writes a "Dirty Laundry" parenting column. She is the home and family editor and wastes too much time on Facebook and political blogs. 
I don’t believe the 79% number unless these women are talking about sex with someone other than their husband. All else being equal, men have a much higher sex drive than women at any age. I laugh when I see these commercials about male enhancement and wonder when someone is going to develop a drug that gets women “in the mood”. That would be the best selling drug of all time. Husbands would be lining up for blocks to buy it.
Maybe if the wives didn’t gain 50 pounds right after they got mariied, their husbands might be more interested…
Truth - are you married? Girlfriend?
Aisha, I’m not sure we can interpret that 27%/73% as being good news. I drive a car that has over 150,000 miles on it that may go out on me any minute…and I refer to it as being “basically ok”…and that it “successfully” get me where I need to go an a day to day basis. Is a successful marriage a happy marriage? These statistics are bleak - save for the women/wives wanting more sex. I shall post yet another of your articles on our refrigerator at home!
I think most women especially after children look at sex as something on their “to do” list. Between the kids, housework etc I know I am just done at the end of the day. And no I haven’t gained 50 lbs. Some husbands would be surprised by how much more they’d “get” if they helped out around the house more. I know mine would!
Sorry, Brian, but I’m in a relationship - and I’m straight. Maybe you should try and find some gay blog sites to find love…
Truth - I’m sure whoever you are with that you are in a wonderful relationship then. You sound like a great catch. Now here’s a guy that knows what’s going on. Any idea why I would ask the original question to you? Odd, the first thing you assume is that I’m hitting on you… but I realize that I wouldn’t qualify for your standards since I’ve personally gained 50+ pounds since I’ve been with my partner. We could have had it all…you and me.
Momof2 - I’d probably have to agree about the to do list. I’ve even tried to sneak it into the to do list between items 7-8 in his/her own handwriting. Each time it’s the last thing on the list. Any chance you’ve told your husband if he put the dishes away it swings the odds into more realistic numbers? Honestly, don’t you think you guys/gals would find some other reason if we picked up the slack?
Brian, I’m sure you’ll find the right person who, you hope, will love you for who you are (all of you).
I personally don’t think men have a higher sex drive than women, I think theirs is just triggered by different things– and those things that trigger men are more accessible than those that trigger women. The stuff of dirty magazines is much more prevalent in our society on a daily basis than the attention and consideration it takes to put a lady in the mood.
These numbers look off, but I have no study of my own so I will let them alone. What I do have is experience and I think that counts for something. When my wife and I were first married we were like rabbits. Great time. When we started a family, the sex slowed — but only a little. After 4 children things were all good, then menopause hit. WOW! I was not expecting that! I sometimes made excuses (seriously) to work late so I wouldn’t have to come home and ‘perform’. Never would have guessed, but I had a tough time keeping up with her needs. After menopause, it got a little slower so we talked about ways to ‘re-kindle’ the fire and it worked. Married 35 years now, love her more than the day I married her and feely acknowledge that without her committment to stay home with our children, I would never have known the professional success we enjoy today. I tell my children…work on it everyday.