Writing In Truth AND Love (part III)
This quick and final post in a series entitled “Writing In Truth AND Love” will highlight the benefits and practical nature of sharing openly and honestly with the ones you love. As we’ve already pointed out, there will be much friction, heat and inevitably…sparks when this level of depth is plunged in a relationship. However, please remember that it is worth it. Let’s look at two examples from today’s culture:
Sting and The Police: Roxanne
Roxanne, you don’t have to put on the red light
Those days are over
You don’t have to sell your body to the night
Roxanne, you don’t have to wear that dress tonight
Walk the streets for money
You don’t care if it’s wrong or if it’s right
Roxanne, you don’t have to put on the red light
Roxanne, you don’t have to put on the red light
Put on the red light, put on the red light
Put on the red light, put on the red light
Put on the red light, oh
I loved you since I knew ya
I wouldn’t talk down to ya
I have to tell you just how I feel
I won’t share you with another boy
I know my mind is made up
So put away your make up
Told you once I won’t tell you again it’s a bad way
Roxanne, you don’t have to put on the red light
Roxanne, you don’t have to put on the red light
You don’t have to put on the red light
Put on the red light, put on the red light
Notice how loving and emphatic of a friend “Roxanne” has. He’s not afraid of how she’ll respond because regardless of how she responds, he sees it worth his while to speak the truth to her -my friends, life is too short not to.
The next example I will cite is from a man named Randy Pausch. This 47-year old professor is terminally ill with months, if not weeks to live and has composed a “Final Lecture” for his students that has gripped not only our nation, but the world.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ji5_MqicxSo
Above is the link to his lecture and the point that I appreciated the most is this: Don’t worry when someone is providing you with constructive criticism and pointing out areas where you can improve, rather, worry when they stop or when nobody does this at all. He goes on to talk about how it is a risky, sacrificial and loving gesture to provide ideas, tips, thoughts and feedback to others.
That’s it for this week, thank you for tuning in and please check back in another week or so.
[thank you to David Fisk at Kirk of the Hills Presbyterian Church for his analysis of Roxanne which I have borrowed and slightly reapplied to the best of my ability]
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