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07.30.2008 3:00 am

Is it too dangerous to let kids play outside?

St. Louis Post-Dispatch

I have many fond memories of being a kid in High Point, N.C., where my friends and I spent hours outside. My parents might have been troubled by the things I found to occupy my time. There was the creek that ran around our neighborhood and the stony abutments — some with caves? — that we explored. We threw rocks at the water bugs.

We explored houses under construction — which my mother strictly forbade me from doing. I’d cut through an easement between the neighbor’s house and mine to get home. I’d ride my bike what seemed to be miles to Steve Boldin’s house. My mother could holler my name to bring me home for dinner.

My kids have never had those sorts of adventures. Most of their lives, we haven’t lived close enough to their friends for them to bike or walk to each others’ houses. It hasn’t been fear that’s kept them inside, but proximity. When we’d drive them to a friend’s house, they’d play — inside and out.

Our story for Wednesday’s Post-Dispatch addresses the changes in how much kids play outside these days. It talks about a University of Michigan study that found that children spend half the time they did outdoors now than they did two decades ago.

My colleague Nancy Cambria, who wrote the story, also blogged about it over here on the Parents Talk Back blog. Here question: How do we get back to those days? Please visit there to read and comment on the perspectives on the topic.

If it’s parental fear that keeps kids inside, stats say there’s no reason for it.

What was your experience playing outside? Why do you suppose the time kids spend outside is dropping?

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21 comments

Kurt, as you may know, I am Shawnee Indian. I suspect that the need to be outdoors may be in the genes.

Our barn was made out of huge cypress logs. Whenever possible I would take a taped tennis ball and throw it against the logs, to see if I could catch the rebound I learned to do that well enough to go to college on a full ride baseball scholarship.

I like being outside. That is an advantage when one is dealing with the opposite sex. If I was thinking of asking a girl for a date, I would ask her if she liked to go fishing. If she said “No”, all interest in her was gone.

Skip to today. My LOI (lady of interest) lives with me out on the peninsula of a lake, she loves fishing, quail hunting, goose and duck hunting, etc. Another advantage she has is that she earns a high income, and is not a leach and she knows nothing about cooking. LOL.

I do the cooking;she takes care of our boats….doing things like changing the linens on the thouseboat when guests depart, change valves is our inflatable when needed.

— johnh
7:31 am July 30th, 2008

It makes you wonder, is it that kids are less active today because of all the electronics in their lives, or is that what they gravitated to because parents want them close by because of fear of what could happen? The Wednesday story asks a lot of questions that really can’t be answered.

I admit I am one of the wary ones. My kids go outside almost every day when the weather is decent (above 32F below 100F no lighting is what I define as decent) but I am always there to watch them. I usually work on something in the garage or out in the yard, but it never gets my full attention because I am always keeping track of where they are and who is coming by and so forth.

It’s not that I want to cramp my kids style, but I guess I can’t seem to help it because they mean the world to me…

— Tim
7:58 am July 30th, 2008

When I was a child, my family lived in a fairly new subdivision in North County, surrounded by woods and farms and all that good stuff. The general rule of thumb was that you went out to collect your friends and basically disappeared for hours. There were only two basic rules: a)you didn’t exceed the boundaries set by the major roads, and b)you had to come back home when the streetlights came on. We got the usual lectures about about scary strangers–child abduction is nothing new. The big thing in retrospect was that if you got hurt or found yourself in a situation you couldn’t handle there were always adults somewhere nearby. Like when a buddy of mine fell out of a tree back in the woods and broke his arm, one of us stayed with him and another went to get his mom. Almost every house had someone home…few wives worked and grandparents often shared the house. It was a super way to grow up.

What’s changed? Well, for one thing, there are few adults home all day anymore and available for an emergency. So yeah, that makes parents leary about turning Junior loose. Secondly, very few kids live in an area with a lot of wild space. The woods and farms I grew up with were gone by the time I graduated high school. Kids today are surrounded by a high tech… anything but natural…world.

Do I think parents are overprotective? Oh yeah. It’s not just the fear of a stranger snatching your child, although I’ve heard that fear expressed. It’s more along the lines of, “It’s too hot for my kid to be out there…it’s too cold…there are too many mosquitoes…” and so on and so forth. For the love of God! When we roamed free, I don’t recall a single incident of heatstroke, frostbite, or malaria. Get a grip! Even if there were a small wild area nearby, parents today would probably want it eliminated so there wouldn’t be any snakes or poison ivy or whatever. Kids are going to get skinned knees and broken bones. It’s part of growing up, learning from stupid mistakes, trusting your buddies to take care of you. I wouldn’t trade my childhood for anything. And I really feel sorry for kids growing up today.

— Pat Carpenter
8:06 am July 30th, 2008

I grew up in a pretty tough part of town in North St. Louis. My friends and I wandered far and wide. We rode our bikes or played corkball on the side of the house. Our problem was bigger kids or some tough kids from the projects. We heard stories, even in those days, about children abducted, but never really had a problem.
Today I think kids have so many more play options with all the video games and hundreds of tv channels. I think parents are more cautious today. Not only because of the horror stories, but because you might lose your kids, or end up in the slammer, if someone decides you are a negligent parent.

— jfmoyn
8:21 am July 30th, 2008

I remember wandering under my favorite overpass and storm drainage creek where I would set off firecrackers and catch crawfish. At least a mile from my parents most of the time. I had a bike and friends around the neighborhood and apart from the occasional scrap with another kid, nothing bad ever happened.
I think parents today are too overprotective and if they can’t be 5 feet from their kids, the kids aren’t going out. The media publicizes child abductions etc. and make it seem commonplace. These incidents are few and far between statistically.

— larry
8:25 am July 30th, 2008

I think Pat made a good point that there was always an adult in reach. Mothers were most always home. I grew up in an area of mid county that was unincorporated. St. Louis Co. police came through sometimes but not very often. We were outside playing from morning to super time. After super time it was usually a family time of cleaning up and watching television together as a family. As much as I wanted to go back out, mom wanted us to spend the evenings together. I really don’t think that there are any more bad people out there today then there were back then. The media seems to cover things a lot more today. They seem to play a little more dramatics into everything. Times have changed and will continue to do so like it or not. I believe it is the responsibility of the parents to see that there kids experience the outdoors. If they are not comfortable with the surroundings they live in, they should conceder a change. I wouldn’t trade my childhood for anything. Playing in the creek, shooting BB guns, riding bikes, just being with friends. It was a great experience.

— first tom
8:29 am July 30th, 2008

One more thought. When I said that there were always adults around in my childhood that we could go to, I should have said that these were familiar adults. Back in the day, all the homes in our area were owned by the people who lived in them, not all these rental properties. And people didn’t buy “starter homes” with the intention of “moving up.” Once they were ensconced in that house, they were there for the duration. So everybody pretty much knew everybody else…who lived where, what kids (and dogs!) belonged to which family. In today’s world, that neighborhood stability seems to be gone. In any given block, there are maybe 50% of the homes that operate like revolving doors. So you don’t know your neighbors and after awhile you give up any attempt to get to know them. Why make the effort if next year they’ll probably be gone? So you don’t have that sense of letting your kids go because you know and trust the neighbors to watch out for them the same way you watch out for their kids.

— Pat Carpenter
8:46 am July 30th, 2008

Man we all sound like our parents! My dad used to go on and on about his childhood freedoms and how much better he had it!

My childhood was full of adventure and freedoms,as I posted on the other relating topic we played kickball every summer night until dark and then it was time for my beloved kick-the-can!!!!!!

I am the proud parent of 3 kids 2 of them teens,I try to keep tabs on them the best I can(mostly because I know what I was doing at their age)!As for my baby he will be 11 next month he’s a really neat kid kind of a thro-back he likes comic books and has a vivid imagination. He and his buddies are free to rome the hood.

Now I must confess when I herd about the Florissant girl who was shot in the chest walking home from a friends house I was very taken-a-back I hesitated to let my daughter walk to her friends house. Their innocence is lost.

— MC
9:55 am July 30th, 2008

I grew up in a small town in Southern Illinois population at that time about 4000. Those were the “wonder years”. We woke up, ate, went outside disappeared to wherever until lunchtime, then back outside until dinner time, then back outside until streetlights came on.

I would love to be able to allow my daughter that freedom. As a working parent I have to find organized care for my child each summer for 9-11 weeks. When she is allowed to stay home alone, she will have rules about where she can go outside (back yard only). Sure the stats are low and show that it’s usually a family member or close friend that harms our children, BUT, I don’t want my child to be the exception to that, so yes I’m overprotective, but I try to be balanced about it.

— Momof1girl
10:44 am July 30th, 2008

Oh mercy yes times have changed.You can’t take your eyes off your children these days.

— momama
11:19 am July 30th, 2008

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