None. The ink would already be dry on the divorce filing.

When children are involved it’s not about you or your spouse, it’s about what is best for them, nothing else. The question “Are we, as a family, better off together or apart?” should be asked and answered truthfully.

Now, if you had 2 mature parents (although the very fact they are facing this predicament is because one wasn’t), they would get back together and continue to raise their children without conflict. Immature ones would do what made THEM feel good, children be damned.

When did we become a society that gave in so easily to knee jerk, feel good anecdotes? Whether it be from food, drugs, alcohol or sex, it is the cause of many of our problems and will be our downfall.

I think Mrs. Sanford is great and I wish she were my wife!!!!!!!!! I can’t disappear for even an hour without my wife sending out the search dogs, the fbi, cia and national security to look for me. I have never cheated on my wife in our 11 yr marriage, but she always feels that today might be the day I decide to, so she is always watching. So Mrs. Sanford please talk to my wife, so I can have a mistress too, and all is forgiven in the end.

No! Just ask my ex husband.

Many people disagree with Jenny Sanford’s willingness to take her husband back.. However there are many reasons why a betrayed wife might decide to give her husband a second chance, including the reasons listed here http://bit.ly/18PCI1 Many factors are taken into consideration before such a decision is made. Even then, a forgiving wife still has to face much criticism, in addition to the 2 major fears mentioned here http://bit.ly/EdyTe

Jenny Sanford has shown great dignity and strength in dealing with her husband’s affair and his embarrassing statements to the press. Other women with cheating husbands can learn a lot from Jenny regarding the steps a betrayed wife can take to save her marriage, without losing her dignity and self-respect http://bit.ly/giv70 Jenny has made it clear that Sanford will have to work hard to rebuild their marriage and regain her trust. She has taken a firm stand in doing what she deems best for herself and her sons, and we should respect the choice she has made.

Mrs Sanford is a politicians spouse, as such she may have other interests than her spouse’s “faithfulness”.

The Governor, if his marriage is a valuable as he says it is, should resign and go focus on his marriage, or get a divorce and run for office in Argentina.

Marriage and family relationships are so extremely personal and should stay that way minus any criminal acts. This public exposure must be so devastating and cumulating situation for them both. It is just so sad for a family and children to have to go through.

What is the business of the people is his unfitness for public office and the Governor’s office as proved by his actions of abandoning the office of the Governor for that time period.

But, as far the marriage goes, if his wife can live with his actions and with him, so can I live with her decision. Neither I nor any of us must live with this man or his bad behavior personally. It is none of our business. In all honesty I can’t say what I would do because one never knows these things until they are in such a position. Based on my knowledge of me, even if I decided to stay and work on the marriage, I would not be able to forget and that alone would ruin any hope of making things work out. I guess there would have to be some other insinuating circumstances there to cause me to stay in such a marriage in name only. I just don’t think such marriages in name only are good for one’s psyche, nor good for the soul under any circumstances.

Forgivness is a good thing if you have the strength to see it through. Some do, some don’t. Only the future will tell if Jenny Sanford is making the right decision. Marrying a politician is a challenging life decision. Moral and ethical corruption are the norm. Good luch to her.

Mrs Sanford is a politicians spouse, as such she may have other interests than her spouse’s “faithfulness”.

The Governor, if his marriage is a valuable as he says it is, should resign and go focus on his marriage, or get a divorce and run for office in Argentina.
— RHarnack
12:50 pm July 3rd, 2009

Bwahahahahah!!!! I guess that goes for all politicians, right? Or does it just apply to the ones which you disagree?

Ruth posted some good links there.
I always said that I’d leave in a heartbeat if that happened to me…
but, it’s not quite that simple once it actually happens. Facing starting over, and having a home and a child together complicates matters; you question everything.
So, I believed that he wanted to work things out, and I didn’t leave… but he continued to disrespect and disregard our entire family in his selfish decisions. So, I felt pretty confident that I was doing the right thing when I finally left. It wasn’t easy, but, I definitely do NOT regret it.
And, it’s worked out in the end. I married a good man this time around, and he puts our family first, above any impulses and when he tells me we’ll work through something together, we actually *do*.

Rharnack,

Is this more of the high-level, issue-oriented stuff you pretend to
provide: “…get a divorce and run for office in Argentina.”

Btw, here’s somebody that likely would ask you “What were you thinking?”
as you were protesting against a Free Vietnam and a Free Cambodia.

http://apnews.excite.com/article/20090630/D994V3G80.html

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Forgiveness is good for the soul and is a must. To forgive does not at all equate with the need to STAY in such a marriage. One can truly forgive and not stay. Trust is broken and without trust there is no relationship worthy of having.

Amazed & Bobz -
I hold no truck with spouses who lie to their spouse nad run off to have affairs.

I have noticed that politicians spouses oftentimes have a different point of view from others. It may be that they are committed to the political agenda of their spouse, or it may be they share the same moral defects — I don’t know, nor am I all that curious.

Gov Sanford’s wife has issued a fairly standard response.

As to Gov Sanford, why cut him any more “slack” than you did Pres. Clinton? If I recall there was a great hue and cry for impeachment, or is South Carolina less concerned about the moral/marital life of their public officials. If Sanford does get a divorce and run off to Argentina, what would you say then?

Bobz - your shizoid behavior and citations are becoming even more so. It is no secret that I despise war. I have been on the side of NonViolence since I was 12. I tire of “tough talkers” who are all hat. Take you self destructive hatreds elsewhere.

I think Jenny Sanford is doing the best she can in spite of the situation her husband has put her in. I’m not sure I would be quite so forgiving. She is a classy and intelligent lady who had a career before her husband was governor. I’m sure she could survive without him should she choose to do so.

So give us some of your issue-oriented, high-level reasons as to what you would say to Mr. Mey.

Btw, you need a hyphen between self + destructive.

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I could not!

http://www.plea4help.com

He should do the honorable thing and get out of the marriage.

What Jenny Sanford decides is her own business.

He’s a maroon. Nothing more.

Bill Clinton didn’t resign reign from office and Hillary took him back. Why should the Sanford case be any different?

More people need to MTOB.

And be more forgiving. Why is it any business of ours, unless we lived in SC and state money was used. Americans are *so* hung up on sex.

If your or my spouse were to murder someone, we’d go out of our way to help them dispose of the body, cover the evidence, and try to forget that it ever happened. But, infidelity, that’s unforgiveable.

I hope that I never feel the need to go ‘hiking on the Appalachian trail’.

He’s goofy. I doubt if he can put it back together. He’ll pretend he’s back but he just wants his ego stroked thru his office and the power/fame attached to it. Mid life crises here we come. He’ll wake up in a pile.
He’ll be with some law firm as a partner lobbying in a few years. Wanna bet?

He must have all the money in the family, or she would have booted him out. He will be led around on a leash from here out. He gives men a bad name.

I cannot really answer this question, as ahving been fortunate enough to share a true and loving spousal relationship for over 32 years, I can’t conceive of being in this position. No relationship built on love, respect, mutual trust and reverence for your life’s partner should ever come to such a tawdry pass.

Jenny Sanford is in the same untenable position Hillary Clinton, Elizabeth Edwards, and so many others have been before her and who will be afterward. She is a political wife who is tempering her gut-level reactions to attempt to transcend the emotional outrage for the sake of the bigger, public picture. I cannot second-guess or criticize her. I have never been in her shoes and will never be. These are sad and demeaning stories, trotted out for the salacious inculgence of a populace sated on trash like People magazine and grocery store tabloids, a public feeding frenzy unworthy of us or of the Sanford family. Mark Sanford should be ashamed — although I suspect his main discomfort is at getting caught.

like many political and wealthy persons wives, I’m sure she would rather not lose her social status or wealthy position (alimoney would keep her wealthy, but can’t say she’s the Gov’s Wife). I’m sure her Red Hat Lady Chapter is gossiping up a storm.