Could you excuse a Sanford-esque lapse by your spouse?
Jenny Sanford
South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford’s admitted affair with an Argentine woman has been our only respite from news of Michael Jackson’s death. The latest word in the case is from Sanford’s wife, Jenny, who said in stories yesterday that she’d be willing to forgive him.
“Forgiveness opens the door for Mark to begin to work privately, humbly and respectfully toward reconciliation with me,” she said. “However, to achieve true reconciliation will take time, involve repentance, and will not be easy.”
She called her husband’s behavior “inexcusable” (gee, ya think?) — but is apparently willing, on some level, to excuse it. ”Mark has stated that his intent and determination is to save our marriage, and to make amends to the people of South Carolina. I hope he can make good on those intentions,” Jenny Sanford said.
According to one version of the story, the governor had even asked his wife for permission to travel to Argentina to see his mistress. When denied, he went against her wishes anyway. If you were in a similar situation, under what circumstances could you forgive your spouse? Could you? Would you? How? And what do you think of Jenny Sanford’s statements?
Kurt is the director of social media for the Post-Dispatch, where he has worked since August 2002. He's been a journalist since 1982, covering municipal government, courts, education and two hurricanes as a reporter before becoming an editor. 
Rharnack,
Is this more of the high-level, issue-oriented stuff you pretend to
provide: “…get a divorce and run for office in Argentina.”
Btw, here’s somebody that likely would ask you “What were you thinking?”
as you were protesting against a Free Vietnam and a Free Cambodia.
http://apnews.excite.com/article/20090630/D994V3G80.html
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Forgiveness is good for the soul and is a must. To forgive does not at all equate with the need to STAY in such a marriage. One can truly forgive and not stay. Trust is broken and without trust there is no relationship worthy of having.
Amazed & Bobz -
I hold no truck with spouses who lie to their spouse nad run off to have affairs.
I have noticed that politicians spouses oftentimes have a different point of view from others. It may be that they are committed to the political agenda of their spouse, or it may be they share the same moral defects — I don’t know, nor am I all that curious.
Gov Sanford’s wife has issued a fairly standard response.
As to Gov Sanford, why cut him any more “slack” than you did Pres. Clinton? If I recall there was a great hue and cry for impeachment, or is South Carolina less concerned about the moral/marital life of their public officials. If Sanford does get a divorce and run off to Argentina, what would you say then?
Bobz - your shizoid behavior and citations are becoming even more so. It is no secret that I despise war. I have been on the side of NonViolence since I was 12. I tire of “tough talkers” who are all hat. Take you self destructive hatreds elsewhere.
I think Jenny Sanford is doing the best she can in spite of the situation her husband has put her in. I’m not sure I would be quite so forgiving. She is a classy and intelligent lady who had a career before her husband was governor. I’m sure she could survive without him should she choose to do so.
So give us some of your issue-oriented, high-level reasons as to what you would say to Mr. Mey.
Btw, you need a hyphen between self + destructive.
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I could not!
http://www.plea4help.com
He should do the honorable thing and get out of the marriage.
What Jenny Sanford decides is her own business.
He’s a maroon. Nothing more.
Bill Clinton didn’t resign reign from office and Hillary took him back. Why should the Sanford case be any different?
More people need to MTOB.
And be more forgiving. Why is it any business of ours, unless we lived in SC and state money was used. Americans are *so* hung up on sex.