Life Sherpa: Welcome back boys and girls. Time for another Q&A with Life Sherpa. We have some questions in the hopper, and we will get to them in a sec. But let's get some live-action drama going as well.

Stressed out: Hey Sherpa,

I have a problem. I love my wife dearly and she is the greatest thing in the world to me. However, there are periods where I cannot live in the same state with her. If she doesn't like how I do a mundane task like folding laundry (folding towels in thirds, instead of fourths; stacking cloths at random, versus coordinating the way the stripes lay), she says I'm doing it wrong and shoves me aside to do it all over. Shouldn't she just be grateful to have a man who is willing to help fold a load of laundry or two? It seems that way with everything I do. I do some task differently than her; I'm doing it wrong and I have altered the time-space continuum, raised the dead, coaxed cats and dogs to live together in harmony, created all out chaos. She will verbally berate me over these littlest things to the point where I feel like there must be something mentally wrong with me and I should seek professional help; I have seriously considered so, many times.

All I ever want to do is please her and make her happy, but if my very breathing pattern is going to send her on another tirade what am I to do?

Life Sherpa: Well, let's say this first: You can't stop breathing. That won't help your relationship at all. She may be fine with that, but my guess is that you won't find it so much fun.
One choice is obvious: Let her start folding ALL the towels and stack ALL the clothes.
And I don't think that you, and you alone, should be considering seeking professional help

judy jacques: On a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being most possible, do you believe in the possibliity of a man lying to himself about sex outside of marriage, believing it's strictly sex for sex sake, no love envolved, when he's really searching for lost feelings of love. Do most men, in your opinion, put duty ahead of love because love is so confusing and more mysterious and duty is not? Thank you.

Life Sherpa: Well, I have to go with a 10 because when you combine "men" and "sex", anything is possible. So it's quite likely that a man is looking for lost feelings of affection, or it could be just for sex, or some combination thereof.
I can't say if men are more attuned to duty or love, but I can agree that love is far more complicated. It's the quantum mechanics of emotions.

Nancy McSpadden: Dear Life Sherpa,

Why would men rather play a game of basketball game than go to a dinner party?

Life Sherpa: You're making it easy, Nancy.
Simply put, to most men playing basketball (or any competitive game, short of live-pistol dueling) is more fun than going to a dinner party. Dinner is something you can eat WHILE watching a basketball game. And with little doubt in my mind, the dinner party was invented by women so they could size up other women's clothes and fashion, which is a female version of competition.
Guys love sports. Why is that such a hard concept to grasp?

paul: Sherpa.
I have trouble sleeping with my wife. You know, the old fashioned kind where you close your eyes and wake up 8 hours later. She steals my covers and doesn't like the ceiling fan or music (I've even tried Enya).

Should I make her sleep on the couch from now on or will that doom me to the doghouse? A guy's got to get his shut eye.

-Signed bleary-eyed

Life Sherpa: Make her sleep on the couch? God luck with that Bleary. Write me back when she's camped out on the sofa. You will be my Life Sherpa "Man of the Month."