Just wondering: All my past boyfriends have told me I'm the most amazing girlfriend they've ever had (to date, of course). So if they've got it so good why do they do stuff to mess it all up?

Life Sherpa: I need more specs, Just. Like what exactly do they do that messes things up?

Maria: If men like being in the driver's seat why do they assume their women are to make all the plans?

Life Sherpa: I'm going to go out on a limb here.
I think most women THINK their husband is an equal partner in plans on what to do. In fact, it's usually something that the woman wants to do, and men go along because it's a whole lot easier than arguing about it -- like throwing a dinner party, or going to a dinner party.
Subconsciously, a lot of men wish a lot of women would simply drop a lot of the plans they devise.

Uncle Jerry: Life Sherpa,

I'm an old-fashioned sort of guy. I love whosome fun and adventure, the basics are what provides me with true happiness.

I have a problem with my woman. She is hands off with the kids: junk food, enormous wardrobes, super-weeklong-b-day-parties, anytime bedtime, cell phones, text messages, dirty dancing, etc, etc, etc...

She says I'm extreme, but I'm all for hearing her compromises, except she has none. She says I'm all or nothing. I just want moderation!!! But she won;t hear that. She almost always answers my direct questions with questions back to me. She almost always points-out issues with me in defending the inquiry I have just made. I get nowhere, excpet frustrated that the kids are not developing any sort of humbleness. Core values that this country has lost, are being lost at my house - which appauls me.

Valentines Day, is not for me this year. Is it time I call it quits and move on?

Life Sherpa: I'm confused: Who's doing the dirty dancing, your woman or your children. (Obviously, it's a lot bigger problem if it's your children.)And who's buying them enormous wardrobes?

Without these answers, it's kind of hard to answer you. But it does sound like she has little clue as to what a parent is supposed to do. Some professional family counseling might be in order before you decide to call it quits.

Just wondering: Sherpa, variations of excuses such as: I need my space, I don't know what I want, or I'm confused. They often initiate the breakup (or do something stupid so I'll do it for them), then come crawling back later for forgiveness (which, oftentimes, is a bit too late for me to accept). Is that enough specs?

Life Sherpa: Did you see the question from "Matt" who said his girlfriend broke up with him and said she needed time?
Such behavior, like "I need some space" or "I don't know what I want" can be translated to this:
"I think I found a guy/girl who might be better than you. So I want to go check that action out, and if it doesn't pan out, I'll be back."
I told Matt to never let anyone put him on a clock. I'm glad to hear that often times, you don't take them back.

Physco: I have a very "unique" relationship with my wife. We are the most un-married married couple I know. we only do together things with the kids, otherwise, we each do our own thing. i am wanting to do more things with the wife and when I suggest or bring up the topic, she relates evrything to the kids. Sex is non-existant in our house fo rthe last 2 years and when she does go out, she is out for longer and longer periods of time. I do not think she is cheating on me, but I cannot get this out of my head and I have not seen any evidence of this, not that I have really been looking for it either due to my trust in her.

any ideas???

Life Sherpa: Sex is non-existent for two years? Do you jog a lot?
If you trust your wife, then keep trusting her. But you need to ask her the very same question you asked me. Time to stop with "unique" and switch to point-blank.