While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On being dismayed at a mate's weight gain • I've always believed that every woman is beautiful. Every woman. If I don't see the beauty in some woman, that's MY problem, not hers. It's up to me to work harder to see the beauty, not up to her to make herself live up to whatever my standards might be. — D.

On "like" as a foundation for "love''• I am 89 and have been married to the same wonderful woman for 62 years. This marriage would never have lasted this long if we did not "like" each other. I enjoy her company. A lousy cup of tea tastes wonderful when shared with her. We are the best of friends. — O.

On worrying that your daughters will grow up to be tall and heavyset like their dad • My husband and I are both plus size, and he's hairy. Our progeny is a beautiful 5-foot-10, size 18 teenager.

We have been very candid with her about healthy eating and exercising, gave her eight years of classical ballet lessons to give her poise, and always encouraged her to stand up straight and be confident in herself. …

We have told her she is blessed. She is a classic, curvy beauty and if she doesn't fit the "model," it helps in avoiding superficial relationships based on looks.

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