Miss Manners

Dishwasher drama can be easily avoided

Dear Miss Manners • I like to load the dishwasher with the silverware facing down. My mother prefers face up. While we can all argue about who…

May 23, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Loud talk in a loud class gets pair in trouble

Dear Miss Manners • My friend and I were at a high-energy fitness class with loud music, and at times during the class we were talking. Unbekn…

May 22, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Etiquette for artists working in public places

Dear Miss Manners • As a young artist, one of my art classes involves drawing all day in a famous natural history museum. The etiquette surrou…

May 19, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Relatives are party hearty after funeral

Dear Miss Manners • A few weeks ago, a friend of mine died. She had been ill a long time and her passing was expected. Her children were at th…

May 16, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

New caller ID supplants old verbal ID

Dear Miss Manners • Although I would like to classify myself as middle-aged, it appears that I am “old-fashioned.” I do not have a cellphone. …

May 15, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Moms who want recognition from everyone in their lives

Dear Miss Manners • Is it rude, or simply not appropriate, to congratulate other people’s mothers on Mother’s Day?

May 12, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Pregnancy and unexpected changes — to friends

Dear Miss Manners • Is there a switch that goes off when people announce a pregnancy and that sends out the “I can’t be friends with you anymo…

May 09, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Restaurant servers aren't mind readers

Dear Miss Manners • I’m one spouse in a biracial, same-sex marriage. It really rips me when waitpersons don’t pick up on the fact that my husb…

May 08, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Rude behavior on the elevator

Dear Miss Manners • As an apartment dweller, I frequently ride the elevator with other residents. When other tenants enter behind me, I typica…

May 05, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Pairings leave roommate with no bed

Dear Miss Manners • I live in an apartment with three other girls, all of whom are in romantic relationships. Due to this, each feels the need…

May 02, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Co-worker has a hangup over speaker phone

Dear Miss Manners • A business manager at work always answers and keeps his phone in speaker mode. He does not do that to his boss — just ever…

May 01, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Random acts of kindness and unsigned cards

Dear Miss Manners • My very dear aunt has a hobby of making homemade greeting cards that she sends to some of her friends and family. The card…

April 28, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Don't take 'how are you' too seriously

Dear Miss Manners • I’m so tired of the question, “How are you?”

April 25, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Business apology: Good manners, good sense

Dear Miss Manners • Is it necessary for businesses to apologize for every little mistake or lack of product?

April 24, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Mismatched flatware cuts in many ways

Dear Miss Manners • Good fortune has provided me the opportunity to live a more comfortable life, and I need to get one bit of information cle…

April 21, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

An early workplace welcome for new baby

Dear Miss Manners • A professor in our department took leave to give birth. When we heard the happy news that a baby girl had been born, I com…

April 18, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

How to uninvite guests to corporate event

Dear Miss Manners • I am looking for an appropriate way to uninvite someone to a corporate event. The guest list has been revised, and I need …

April 17, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Not good: Tearing meat with your hands

Dear Miss Manners • My 19-year-old stepdaughter has been invited to a formal dinner dance and asked me to teach her etiquette, so I planned a …

April 14, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Gay man's family won't accept partner as husband

Dear Miss Manners • I am a 43-year-old man who came out of the closet 20 years ago. I have spent the vast majority of that time in committed r…

April 11, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Server's query is not an invitation for a review

Dear Miss Manners • Please counsel the polite customer as to the proper way to answer the question often posed by restaurant waiters, “How is …

April 10, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

'Selfie party' can be a gracious occasion for all guests

Dear Miss Manners • I decided I wanted to spend a milestone birthday in the company of some friends. I invited each attendee via individual em…

April 07, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Finding soul mate isn't like hooking a fish

Dear Miss Manners • They say it’s better to have hooked and lost than to have never hooked at all. We all search for our soul mates. We all lo…

April 04, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Thorny introduction of new spouse to ex

Dear Miss Manners • There seems to be an idea (mentioned by others and presented in books and movies) that one’s new spouse or partner must be…

April 03, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Ex-profs should get a thanks rather than announcement

Dear Miss Manners • I will be completing my graduate studies during the next college semester, and I’m unsure as to what the proper etiquette …

March 31, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Aunt wants last word in what she is called

Dear Miss Manners • I have a young nephew and niece, ages 3 and 1. When the first child was born, I asked my sister for her children to call m…

March 28, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Picky eater gets no pass from grandparents

Dear Miss Manners • I have a 3-year-old child who is a picky eater. He is healthy, and the pediatrician has advised me not to stress him by fo…

March 27, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Friend does a slow-burn from thank you after fire

Dear Miss Manners • Friends of mine lost their home to a house fire. It was terrible. Another friend set up a “go fund me”-type page for frien…

March 24, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Find another finger for second engagement ring

Dear Miss Manners • I am remarrying my ex-husband. My first ring was a family heirloom (his side) and I held onto it.

March 21, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

How to block view of neighbor's bathroom

Dear Miss Manners • I can see in my neighbors’ bathroom window. Should you tell them?

March 20, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Some invited guests hold off for better offer

Dear Miss Manners • I love to entertain and host get-togethers and dinner parties often, and big parties usually two or three times a year. Ho…

March 17, 2015 12:00 amLoading…

Dishwasher drama can be easily avoided

Dear Miss Manners • I like to load the dishwasher with the silverware facing down. My mother prefers face up. While we can all argue about who…

Loud talk in a loud class gets pair in trouble

Dear Miss Manners • My friend and I were at a high-energy fitness class with loud music, and at times during the class we were talking. Unbekn…

Etiquette for artists working in public places

Dear Miss Manners • As a young artist, one of my art classes involves drawing all day in a famous natural history museum. The etiquette surrou…

Relatives are party hearty after funeral

Dear Miss Manners • A few weeks ago, a friend of mine died. She had been ill a long time and her passing was expected. Her children were at th…

New caller ID supplants old verbal ID

Dear Miss Manners • Although I would like to classify myself as middle-aged, it appears that I am “old-fashioned.” I do not have a cellphone. …

Moms who want recognition from everyone in their lives

Dear Miss Manners • Is it rude, or simply not appropriate, to congratulate other people’s mothers on Mother’s Day?

Pregnancy and unexpected changes — to friends

Dear Miss Manners • Is there a switch that goes off when people announce a pregnancy and that sends out the “I can’t be friends with you anymo…

Restaurant servers aren't mind readers

Dear Miss Manners • I’m one spouse in a biracial, same-sex marriage. It really rips me when waitpersons don’t pick up on the fact that my husb…

Rude behavior on the elevator

Dear Miss Manners • As an apartment dweller, I frequently ride the elevator with other residents. When other tenants enter behind me, I typica…

Pairings leave roommate with no bed

Dear Miss Manners • I live in an apartment with three other girls, all of whom are in romantic relationships. Due to this, each feels the need…

Co-worker has a hangup over speaker phone

Dear Miss Manners • A business manager at work always answers and keeps his phone in speaker mode. He does not do that to his boss — just ever…

Random acts of kindness and unsigned cards

Dear Miss Manners • My very dear aunt has a hobby of making homemade greeting cards that she sends to some of her friends and family. The card…

Don't take 'how are you' too seriously

Dear Miss Manners • I’m so tired of the question, “How are you?”

Business apology: Good manners, good sense

Dear Miss Manners • Is it necessary for businesses to apologize for every little mistake or lack of product?

Mismatched flatware cuts in many ways

Dear Miss Manners • Good fortune has provided me the opportunity to live a more comfortable life, and I need to get one bit of information cle…

An early workplace welcome for new baby

Dear Miss Manners • A professor in our department took leave to give birth. When we heard the happy news that a baby girl had been born, I com…

How to uninvite guests to corporate event

Dear Miss Manners • I am looking for an appropriate way to uninvite someone to a corporate event. The guest list has been revised, and I need …

Not good: Tearing meat with your hands

Dear Miss Manners • My 19-year-old stepdaughter has been invited to a formal dinner dance and asked me to teach her etiquette, so I planned a …

Gay man's family won't accept partner as husband

Dear Miss Manners • I am a 43-year-old man who came out of the closet 20 years ago. I have spent the vast majority of that time in committed r…

Server's query is not an invitation for a review

Dear Miss Manners • Please counsel the polite customer as to the proper way to answer the question often posed by restaurant waiters, “How is …

'Selfie party' can be a gracious occasion for all guests

Dear Miss Manners • I decided I wanted to spend a milestone birthday in the company of some friends. I invited each attendee via individual em…

Finding soul mate isn't like hooking a fish

Dear Miss Manners • They say it’s better to have hooked and lost than to have never hooked at all. We all search for our soul mates. We all lo…

Thorny introduction of new spouse to ex

Dear Miss Manners • There seems to be an idea (mentioned by others and presented in books and movies) that one’s new spouse or partner must be…

Ex-profs should get a thanks rather than announcement

Dear Miss Manners • I will be completing my graduate studies during the next college semester, and I’m unsure as to what the proper etiquette …

Aunt wants last word in what she is called

Dear Miss Manners • I have a young nephew and niece, ages 3 and 1. When the first child was born, I asked my sister for her children to call m…

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