Q: I am a gifted program teacher. Recently, my superiors have been revising the teaching techniques presented to students in the program. Even though I don't actually agree with the changes, I am being forced to implement them. Now, I'm wondering if it's being thrown at me because they knew I would balk. How should I handle the situation and how do I explain to the parents what is taking place without sounding bitter?

A: My aunt was a gifted and talented teacher for 20 years. Her own style and personality came through loud and clear throughout her teaching career. The kids and parents loved her. When a different program became mandatory, she just could not grasp the changes and challenges. Thus, she retired. In your case, look over everything and sit back and have a quiet evening while you do a little self-reflection. If you are dead set against most of the changes, it will not get any easier. Try to find a new position with a different school district if you feel you cannot retire at this time. - V.T. in Boise, ID

FROM JODIE:

This is a tough question. You don't want to cause conflict with your superiors but you will either have to embrace the new program in a falsely positive manner or confront the decision makers with your reasons for disliking it. I am a little surprised that you were not involved in the revamping of the current curriculum, especially if the guidelines require a new type of mandatory teaching method that does not fit your personal style. It sounds as though they have approached you with something similar in the past and you were not comfortable with it as well.

While change inevitably causes stress, frustration and apprehension, it is usually a good move in the end. Most immediate supervisors are more than happy to work with teachers before and during a sizable switch such as this. If you have not done so already, inquire if there are work sessions and seminars that can better help you to understand how it works and what is and is not going to be flexible in the program.

Sometimes, stricter rules are set up in the beginning and become less important after you learn the curriculum and presentation. Since the parents and children follow your lead, do not mention anything until you are confident in your explanations and try your best to stay positive.

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