Dear Miss Manners • I was at a wedding for which I drove a total of 19 hours there and back, only to find the following line on the back of the ceremony program: "In lieu of thank-you notes, we will be making a donation to the American Cancer Society."
Dear Miss Manners • The U.S. elections and my quadrennial quandary draw closer. I am an expatriate, living where "communist" is a political position, rather than an insult. At social events, some other Americans ask for whom I will vote. I have tried being vague, humorous and evasive, but wh…
Dear Miss Manners • My mother is a member of the Facebook community, where she often goes in search of people from her past. She has found many friends from her childhood, including a man whom she grew up with.
Dear Miss Manners • What is a polite way to answer a direct solicitation for money by a candidate for political office, when one respects the individual but does not share his or her political views or affiliations (and therefore does not wish to contribute)?
Dear Miss Manners • What are the rules for showing cleavage?
Dear Miss Manners • After seeing so many men keeping their jackets buttoned when standing, sitting to chat, forecasting weather, playing a musical instrument, lecturing a class, or sitting at dinner, and others leaving them completely unbuttoned in these situations, I have searched for your say.
Dear Miss Manners • I have been told that one must never wear pearls after 5 p.m. I have a lovely string of pearls that I'd love to wear for an evening out. Is that really incorrect?
Dear Miss Manners • In the past few weeks I asked a girl to the homecoming dance and we have kissed. A couple of days ago, her best friend informed me that she didn't like me anymore. I haven't heard it from her directly.
Dear Miss Manners • When family, friends and acquaintances find out that I do not work outside the home, I am frequently asked what I do all day. I am a 56-year-old female who worked outside the home for many years, but now when I say I don't work (nor do I need to; my husband supports us we…
Dear Miss Manners • I had back surgery several months ago, and my recovery is expected to be long. I have needed to use a walker and now a cane.
Dear Miss Manners • When I became engaged, the women of my religious institution (my mother's contemporaries) held a shower for me, for which I immediately wrote thank-you notes for the luncheon and the gifts.
What is the social pay scale? How much will it cost you if someone you know gives birth, graduates, marries or dies?
Dear Miss Manners • I am a father of three, with No. 4 on the way. This time, my wife and I decided to find out the sex of the baby before the birth. I am proud to say that we are expecting a girl, and I would like to share the news with my buddies with the traditional cigar. Do I wait until…
Dear Miss Manners • I was on a flight where my bag was too big to fit into the overhead bin, but fit under the seat on the aisle. I was sitting in the inside seat.
Dear Miss Manners • I am a single gay man in my early 60s. Three years ago, my niece came out to as a lesbian. One year later, she married her girlfriend. My family has been wonderful, accepting me, my niece and her new wife.
Dear Miss Manners • Is it rude to ask the parent of the child who had an overnight party why your son/daughter was not invited?
Dear Miss Manners • How long after a tragedy, such as the shootings in Aurora, Colo., is it appropriate to begin a discussion on the root causes and preventive actions to be taken?
Dear Miss Manners • I attended a dinner party at which the tablecloth was a unique, delicate and lovely textile that the hostess had picked up on her travels. Before sitting down, she explained that the textile was of special importance to her and was irreplaceable, and asked us not to spill…
Dear Miss Manners • After having lunch with a so-called friend, she proceeded to tell me how negative I was and how it drags her down.