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Parent to Parent: Mother-in-law still buys her adult son an Easter basket

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QMy mother-in-law gets my 37-year-old husband an Easter basket filled with all kinds of goodies every year. His friends make fun of him as well as his coworkers. He doesn’t care. We are going to have our first child in April, and it may be after Easter, but isn’t it time for him to grow up and tell his mom that the baby should now be the focus? He is her only child, but this is ridiculous. Should I talk to her about the Easter basket for a grown man or let him handle it? I think it’s time for it to stop.

From a reader • It sounds like your husband enjoys being treated like a child. However, he has allowed this to go on for much too long. He is going to have to speak up for himself and tell his mom that it’s time for her to stop treating him like an 8-year-old. — W. T. in San Diego

From Jodie Lynn • This is certainly a different situation for a grown man to find himself in. Surely, there must be a reason that your mother-in-law has continued this tradition.

It appears that she enjoys buying him things for this specific occasion, but it’s a little over the top.

If he doesn’t mind being teased about it by his coworkers and friends, it may mean something special to him. It might be best to talk to him first and find out if there indeed is a secret or some explanation with an understandable reason why he has continued to allow this to go on for so long.

Although it is puzzling to many, it’s not the strangest thing I’ve ever heard.

Some parents just can’t let go of their kids, even when they’re older, especially when they’re the only child.

Perhaps when the baby is born and he becomes a father, it’ll be easier for him to ask her to stop? Or, maybe she’ll stop on her own? However, I do agree with the above reader’s advice; it’s his place to put a stop to it.

Can you help?

I love to read my 4-year-old granddaughter classical books with beautiful illustrations and have wonderful stories with great lessons. She used to adore the “Tales of Peter Rabbit,” which are exciting books, and many other classic books that all children should be exposed to in their young lives. Recently I went to visit her and asked her to bring me a pile of her favorite books so I could read them to her, and she said that she was no longer interested and that they bored her. Instead, she carries around some type of small computer and is constantly playing games on it. My daughter told me that it was all that kids wanted to do in this day and age. How can this possibility be good for her? What can she be learning? How can I convince her that books are the most prized possession to have?

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Jodie Lynn is an award-winning parenting columnist, author of five books and mother to three children. She and her family live in Wildwood.

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